This paper talks about Islam’s last Prophet, Prophet Muhammad (P. B. U. H. ) and about a personal characteristic of his life, this being his thirteen marriages to different women during his lifetime. It discusses the different women he married during the course of his life, their lifestyle, and the reason behind all these marriages and how can a Muslim in the contemporary world can relate to this feature of the Prophet’s life.
Plan of the Study This study encompassing a personal trait of Prophet’s life is a detailed paper that focuses on how a Muslim today can reason this and relate it to his own life by learning from the teaching that the Prophet gave out by marrying thirteen different women. Islam is based on logic and it is necessary that a follower and / or of Islam learns lessons from Sunnah and what the Prophet and the Holy Quran want him to learn.
Today, the issue of four marriages that have been allowed to men in Islam is being taken unnecessary advantage of, as people do not realise that this freedom that God has granted to them has to do with peace and supporting other Muslims. The rationale behind it is being confused with men thinking that these four marriages give men entertainment and are a source of freedom of the enjoyment sort only.
What people, in particular men do not understand is that this freedom is more like a big responsibility as there are many things, rules and regulations that need to be undertaken to fulfil the role of these marriages as considered halal (or allowed under Islam) in their lives. This study is a result of secondary research and a case of two to three personal accounts with people who are well known of what is there in the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet.
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What is expected to be learnt from this study is a greater insight into the marriage perspective of Islam and the Prophet and a deeper understanding of how to go about these four marriages that have been allowed while learning from the set example of Prophet’s thirteen marriages. Description Marriage has a distinct role to play in Islam and in a Muslim’s life who enters this contract with another Muslim. Marriage has a role of making a person who is married life’s comfortable and full of peace as he finds solace and friendship in his partner.
The role is more of that of security and tranquillity than what is considered to be in most societies today, this being a perspective relating to marriage taken is a source of entertainment and enjoyment. The Prophet Muhammad said, “Whoever marries has fulfilled half of his religion” and “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is a good spouse”. The Quran stresses upon finding solace in a married life by saying, “And among His signs is this: that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and that He has put love and mercy between your hearts.
Verily in that are signs for those who reflect” (30:21). The Quran also says, “They are your garments and you are their garments” (2:187). By the latter Verse, we gather that the two people who are married to each other are like garments for the other one because they provide support emotionally, spiritually and physically. The two partners ensure the preservation of security, modesty, beauty and dignity of their marriage and themselves by being ‘garments’ as the Quran has termed them. (Washington Times, 2006).
We have established up till now how important the role of marriage is in a Muslim’s life, thereby meeting us with the expectation that it should not be taken as a source of pleasure rather something that needs a serious provision and carrying out of responsibility on both the people who are bound in the marriage contract. (Pickthall, 1998) Explanation and Analysis Prophet married thirteen times during the course of his life. Muslims call these thirteen prominent women as ‘Mothers of the Believers’.
The names of these respectable women are, Khadija, Sawda, Aisha, Hafsa, Zaynab, Salama, Zaynab bint Jahsh, Jawariya, Ramlah and Rayhana. (Pickthall, 1998) In the context of Prophet’s marriage to Aisha, it is a historical fact as recorded and told about in Bukhari (7. 62. 88), that the marriage contract took place when Aisha was six years old. In addition to this, the actual marriage or its consummation took place when she turned nine. Many present day scholars belonging to the Non-Muslim group comment on this by God forbid, calling the Prophet of Islam a ‘child abuser’, which mars the personality of the Prophet according to them.
However, this is untrue as Prophet was of a character of the highest esteem and this controversial argument is nothing but absolute idiocy. (Spencer & Robert, 2007) In response to the above argument, it has been commented upon by a Muslim scholar in his book, that during that time people’s average age used to be that of forty to sixty years and it was normal for people to get married at an early age. Aisha was earlier engaged to Abu Bakr AL- Sideeq, which was broken because he was a non-Muslim. The custom of Arab and in many other places today is that of getting a girl married off once she reaches the age of maturity.
This was what happened in this case as well and blowing it out of proportion would be nothing but immaturity on the part of the doer. Hazrat Aisha achieved the position of a Mufti, which is a person in Islam who can give religious rulings to rest of the Muslims and calling Prophet with that term would mean the ‘victim’ would be ain a psychological and emotional trauma, which truly was not the case in Aisha’s marriage and life with the Prophet. In addition to this, she was always said to lovingly talk about him and his kindness to her, as reported on various occasions.
The reliability of this source of date is very valid and trust worthy since it has been quoted in many accounts compiling the Prophet’s Ahadith and Sunnah (his sayings and practices). (Pickthall, 1998) To compare the culture of that society to that of today’s is very unwise and imprudent as it deals with dealing with the factor of bias indirectly while reporting such blasphemous facts about the Prophet and Islam. It is also an essential part of any research or article writing to ensure that the information contained is true and is free of all bias.
Also, it is to be kept in mind always that the researcher or the writer knows what he or she is writing as validity, knowledge, accuracy, un-biased analysis and up-to-date information are the factors needed to make any piece of writing or report authentic. When talking about Hazrat Khadijah’s marriage to the Prophet, many also say that this was not a good thing as she was many years older to him. To this Islam says that she was the first wife of the Prophet and was a very strong woman who spoke to him about his revelations and consoled him in his times of ‘terror’.
She was also the first convert to Islam therefore. (Haylamaz, 2007) Evaluation of the Study Prophet’s marriages to thirteen women needs to be taken seriously from a perspective that calls for divinity of fulfillment of a higher purpose, and never were sexual considerations in his decision to marry a woman ever taken. (IOL, n. d. ) All his marriages were built on a basis of wither strengthening political ties, providing physical and emotional welfare and support to either the needy, widow of those whose husband had died in a battle or the wife of a fallen enemy.
It can be essentially concluded here that each of his marriages had a prominent role to play in the life of the Prophet and the way the society then was developing. (PBS, n. d. ) His goal was always to unify a society, the Arab world and Muslims and the Prophet wanted to label the contract of a respectable and respectful marriage as a factor unifying beings and matters into peace, solace and tranquility. The marriage to a widow there was considered to be a sin and a curse; the Prophet marriages were almost all to widows to prove to those people that it is not a pariah or a curse.
Also, by marrying widows the Prophet wanted to pay back his due to some of the companions who had died in battles leaving behind a family and / or a widow. Such a concept is one that is inconceivable in our society today as we have forgotten what it is to fulfill our duties of the highest order or to carry out divine tasks, as this world is growing more towards materialism. The proof of what Prophet did was legal in the eyes of Islam can be found in the Quran (Al-Ahzab: 38), when it says, “(Hence) no blame whatever attaches to the Prophet for (having done) what God has ordained for him. Indeed, such was) God’s way with those that have passed away afore-time- and remember that God’s will is always destiny absolute! ” (IOL, n. d. ).
When this study was started it was found out that many contradicting viewpoints exist all over the Internet as well as in the heads of many scholars who deem themselves as ‘knowledgeable’. However, where the conclusion of this study differentiates itself from the actual conclusion is the fact that The Holy Prophet or Prophet Muhammad (P. B. U. H. was a person of the highest kind of character whose match can be no one. His actions were ordained to him by God and are as holy as the religion Islam or Allah Himself. (Al-Albaani, 1994) Conclusion The value of this study in today’s perspective is firstly that Muslims should not base their conclusions or pass their judgments only on some fact that took place then is of a different perspective or value now. It’s the essence of the religion Islam and the Teachings of the Prophet that are important and essential for the Muslim community to learn and prosper from.
The value of this study is justified as high and very noble as it highlights the importance of marriage as something that is more than just a contract between two people to share their lives with each other. However, it should be noted that a contract of marriage is a very respectable thing that serves the two members adjoined with it therein to lead a fulfilled and purposeful life for the benefit of each other and their kinship, so that they find peace and friendship with each other and lead a life of solace. (Al-Albaani, 1994)